With so much change I've experienced this past year, I'm finally starting to get back to some level of balance. I love balance, everything in balance means everything is good. I realize that through it all I always found myself chasing happy. I was constantly looking for happy in anything i could find. If one activity didn't make me happy, I'd go looking for another activity. It got to the point where the result was being over shadowed by the search.
We spend so much of our time "looking" for something or someone to make us happy and now more then ever I fully understand that when you stop "looking" for happy, you can find it. It pretty much applies to anything, once you stop looking for it, you are able to find it. Your mind stops being overwhelmed by the energy used in the search for it, that its finally able to see it right there in your face.
I'm a pretty flexible person, I know how to go with the flow in most cases. When life starts flowing through unknown jungles and over strange landscapes though, it gets a bit more challenging to just go with the flow. I find myself in strange territory, having to find a new way to do things or having to learn how to wait and let things resolve themselves or get to a point where I can see the path. In that process I finally stopped looking. I stopped looking and just started enjoying all of the moments of happiness that came my way. Once I stopped pouring energy into the actual pursuit of happiness, i was able to put more energy into actually "being" happy. Granted I had a bit of help with the mental clarity, but besides that, I finally saw and understood the meaning of "not looking."
So it kinda boils down to a simple point. All the times my mother and others gave me the advice to "stop looking," they were absolutely right. But no one can talk you into doing it. They can advise it, and suggest it and point out the benefits of doing it till they're blue in the face. Until you decide to stop, you will never understand the power of it. Until you make up your mind that you will no longer compare the people you meet to the image of a mate you have in your head you will always be looking for happy. Until you are able to drop your description of happy and just explore what makes you actually FEEL happy, you will always be stuck in the search. I have stopped the search and began the enjoyment. I am not just being happy, I Feel happy. I am now able to release all of the happy that I've always had inside me. And I owe it all to the power of stopping.
I stopped looking for happy and happy happened. If I, with my most intimidating level of stubbornness, can do it, then I know for a fact ANYBODY can do it. So Just Do It already!
We spend so much of our time "looking" for something or someone to make us happy and now more then ever I fully understand that when you stop "looking" for happy, you can find it. It pretty much applies to anything, once you stop looking for it, you are able to find it. Your mind stops being overwhelmed by the energy used in the search for it, that its finally able to see it right there in your face.
I'm a pretty flexible person, I know how to go with the flow in most cases. When life starts flowing through unknown jungles and over strange landscapes though, it gets a bit more challenging to just go with the flow. I find myself in strange territory, having to find a new way to do things or having to learn how to wait and let things resolve themselves or get to a point where I can see the path. In that process I finally stopped looking. I stopped looking and just started enjoying all of the moments of happiness that came my way. Once I stopped pouring energy into the actual pursuit of happiness, i was able to put more energy into actually "being" happy. Granted I had a bit of help with the mental clarity, but besides that, I finally saw and understood the meaning of "not looking."
So it kinda boils down to a simple point. All the times my mother and others gave me the advice to "stop looking," they were absolutely right. But no one can talk you into doing it. They can advise it, and suggest it and point out the benefits of doing it till they're blue in the face. Until you decide to stop, you will never understand the power of it. Until you make up your mind that you will no longer compare the people you meet to the image of a mate you have in your head you will always be looking for happy. Until you are able to drop your description of happy and just explore what makes you actually FEEL happy, you will always be stuck in the search. I have stopped the search and began the enjoyment. I am not just being happy, I Feel happy. I am now able to release all of the happy that I've always had inside me. And I owe it all to the power of stopping.
I stopped looking for happy and happy happened. If I, with my most intimidating level of stubbornness, can do it, then I know for a fact ANYBODY can do it. So Just Do It already!
